Not just another book with ‘Fuck’ in the title to make it look interesting.
When I was buying this book, the lady next to me told me how she’d read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson, and how she’d hated it. She said how everyone was now putting “Fuck” on their title just to sell something that’s actually crap.
I have read The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck and it wasn’t my favourite either but I decided not to judge one book based on the sins of another. Not fair.
I’m glad I gave Unfuck Yourself a chance because I found a lot to put to practice and make some personal changes.
The book is realistic, clear, and to the point. It basically reminds you how the changes in your life depend on you and your actions. There’s no vibration raising, sitting in a quiet room and visualising, and leaving it to some Power, but rather emphasises ACTION and how ultimately, a lot of things are up to you. Searching for answers and waiting for some motivation or powerful feeling won’t get you anywhere – you have to get up and do something.
Here are some lessons from Unfuck Yourself:
“I am willing”.
Ask yourself what situations in your life you’re willing or unwilling to put up with. Stop defending your circumstances and do something about the things that can impact your life. Rather than focusing on what you want or don’t want, focus on what you are willing and unwilling to put up with.
“I am wired to win.”
He points out that the current life you have is the one you’re winning at. For example, if you’re constantly putting off work until the last minute, that’s where you’re winning. You’re winning at whichever domain you’re playing at and so take the necessary actions and mindset to change that domain.
“I got this.”
Shift the way you view your problems and adopt a new approach. Assess the things you’ve experienced and how you got through, as well as the things you’re yet to experience, and place them in a different perspective. If you had it then, then you got it now.
“I embrace the uncertainty.”
We have an addiction to prediction and this makes us seek the certain. The unknown may be scary, it may hold the bad but it may also hold the good. Do the things you normally wouldn’t do. Shake up your routine. It doesn’t have to be major things or huge risks, you can start with the small and simple things, and stop worrying about things you can’t control.
“I am not my thoughts; I am what I do.”
You change your life by doing, not by thinking about it. Thoughts without actions are just thoughts, and if you leave them there, without any action, there will be no impact on your success. He also points out how an action will change your thinking. Take the first step, and the next, and the next.
“I am relentless.”
This is about having the momentum to keep going no matter what, through hopelessness, uncertainty, not feeling up to it, whatever doubts and worries come up. Become the kind of person who progresses even when all seems lost. Being discouraged is okay, it happens, but it’s not okay to stop. Keep going!
“I expect nothing and accept everything.”
It’s better to come to terms with life’s unpredictability than to be retarded by your refusal to let go of unproductive expectations. It doesn’t mean you walk through life aimlessly without any plans. Be free from the expectations of those plans. Plan for victory, learn from defeat.
Unfuck Yourself is a candid message about your life being in your own hands. There’s no use waiting for the right mood or motivation to come, and positive thinking alone won’t help. You have to take responsibility, take charge, and do something to transform your life. Stop blaming people, your past, your childhood, or the world. Stop with the excuses. Stop waiting for the “perfect moment”.
Gary John Bishop reminds us that, “the only barrier preventing you from living a happier, more fulfilling life is YOU!”
So Unfuck Yourself!